The Truth About Labour – The Placenta

Often, there is so much information to take in with regards to labour, that many people don’t know the facts from the falsehoods.  Here is the truth about: The Placenta.

The Placenta

Delivery of the placenta is very easy, and you are largely uninvolved with this part of the delivery. You will most likely be focused on your baby, without realizing what is going on around you.

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Ask Andy – Water Baby wants a Water Birth

‘Water Baby wants a Water Birth’, 27, from Johannesburg asks,

I’m currently 30 weeks pregnant, and I’m seeing both a gynae and a midwife. My midwife suggested that I should consider having a waterbirth, and I think they look really nice and peaceful but I’m nervous that my baby will drown or get an infection. What would you recommend?

I’m a big fan, and advocate, of water births for a number of reasons. Water helps tremendously with pain relief. The warmth helps you to relax, so you are less tense. Therefore, your body releases endorphins (natural painkillers and feel good hormones) which eases your labour pains and makes it easier to push.

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The Most Productive Weekend Ever

Look, I’m not crazy, I know we’re starting a new weekend today, but I’m still so proud of my productiveness last weekend.

On the Friday night, Ross and I decided to have a spontaneous date night, and we popped off to one of our favourite restaurants, Ciao Baby Cucina for one of our favourite meals – the Pesto pasta (with linguine). The original plan was to watch a movie but we were soooo sleepy, that we went home instead (and sang along to the greatest Disney tunes – thanks Apple Music). We got home and watch Selfless (with Ryan Reynolds, just saying) in bed, and just as I was drifting in and out of sleep, a spider ran along Ross’ arm and onto his laptop. I ‘nope’d it outta that bed quicker than a kid celebrating holiday time.

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Life Lessons about Saying Goodbye

I recently lost my father to stage four pancreatic cancer. He was diagnosed in June of 2014, and was given approximately 6 months to live (should he not choose to have treatment). After a few long weeks, he decided to go ahead with chemotherapy for us, his family. He was extremely sick while on chemo, and struggled through the treatments. By the December of 2014, the chemo stopped having an effect on his multiple tumours, and it was then decided that there was no value in continuing the chemotherapy.

He was pretty strong throughout, and the first time you could start to notice that he was ‘sick’ was in July this year, when he became jaundiced and suddenly started drastically losing weight. From July, things happened pretty quickly, he started saying his goodbyes, he started getting confused (due to the toxins building up in his body), and before we knew it, on the 22nd of August, he was gone. In the process of having my dad pass away, I was exposed to a number of lessons. I’m also finding that I’m discovering new lessons on a daily basis. Here is what I have learnt so far.

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Let’s Talk About Postnatal Depression

Often, Postnatal Depression or PND is confused with the ‘baby blues’. The baby blues is a period where you may find yourself quite sad, weepy, tired and emotional in the week after you have given birth, and the blues resolve on their own. Postnatal Depression is much more serious than this.

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Ask Andy – Broken

Welcome to my Ask Andy page! This is your opportunity ask me the burning questions that are on your mind – and they can be about anything you want advice on!

Broken, 28, from Durban says..

I’m such a mess :( Seriously overweight, ugly, bad teeth, got pimples AND wrinkles, no confidence and I’m a complete failure who has never achieved anything in life. I have no friends and no career. I wish I could be beautiful, thin, popular, feminine and successful. I wish I could have friends, a home, a life, and shine, like everyone else my age is. I don’t know how to fix everything. I want to get my life on track but I feel like I’m too broken. That everything is too broken. And like I was not born beautiful and delicate so even if I improve things as much as I can, I still won’t be good enough. Like I’ll still be the ugliest, most pathetic loser person there. Sorry, I’m sure you meant only one question but there’s just too much wrong with me. I don’t know what to do..

Dear Broken,

I can actually feel your sadness through your message. I notice that you place a lot of emphasis on physical appearance – something that most of us do. I’ve also found that our issues with our appearances are deeply-rooted in our own life experiences. The good thing is that your appearance doesn’t have to dictate your life. But, it’s up to you to make sure you don’t let it impact you. Your life is what you make of it..

A lot of the things you’re concerned about with regards to your appearance are fixable. And if there is one thing I can tell you, it’s that I have felt the exact same way about things as you have. I guarantee I’m not the only one. Since we’re sharing..

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Birthday Blues and Why I’m Not Making a List

I am a perpetual sufferer of the ‘birthday blues’. In just under two weeks, I will be another year older. Every year, as September rolls on, I feel the same sadness consume me. Apparently birthday sadness is quite a common thing. I don’t call it depression (as others do) because I feel depression is a much more serious thing compared to just feeling a bit down because I’m turning a year older.

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I Have a New Obsession

I have a new obsession. A Snapchat obsession. Yes, you read that right.

obsession

I downloaded Snapchat way back when it had just started up, and I didn’t quite ‘get’ the concept, plus I didn’t really know anyone on it, and before long, it was deleted off my phone – because, let’s face it, when you have a 16GB iPhone YOU HAVE NO SPACE TO SPARE.

Now that I had heard a few people I know were on it, I decided to download it again and holy cow, am I obsessed?! It’s a bit ridiculous. I think I use Snapchat more than I use any other form of social media right now. (more…)

An Exciting Announcement – Ask Andy

I often get asked a lot of questions. Everyone has an inclination to Ask Andy. We’re talking personal questions, things you’d be too shy to ask your own mother for fear of judgement. I’ve always been told that I’m a good listener. I’ve also noticed a trend that not only do friends come to me and ask me their awkward questions, but strangers have started doing it too! (more…)