Category: Ask Andy

Ask Andy – Broken

Welcome to my Ask Andy page! This is your opportunity ask me the burning questions that are on your mind – and they can be about anything you want advice on!

Broken, 28, from Durban says..

I’m such a mess :( Seriously overweight, ugly, bad teeth, got pimples AND wrinkles, no confidence and I’m a complete failure who has never achieved anything in life. I have no friends and no career. I wish I could be beautiful, thin, popular, feminine and successful. I wish I could have friends, a home, a life, and shine, like everyone else my age is. I don’t know how to fix everything. I want to get my life on track but I feel like I’m too broken. That everything is too broken. And like I was not born beautiful and delicate so even if I improve things as much as I can, I still won’t be good enough. Like I’ll still be the ugliest, most pathetic loser person there. Sorry, I’m sure you meant only one question but there’s just too much wrong with me. I don’t know what to do..

Dear Broken,

I can actually feel your sadness through your message. I notice that you place a lot of emphasis on physical appearance – something that most of us do. I’ve also found that our issues with our appearances are deeply-rooted in our own life experiences. The good thing is that your appearance doesn’t have to dictate your life. But, it’s up to you to make sure you don’t let it impact you. Your life is what you make of it..

A lot of the things you’re concerned about with regards to your appearance are fixable. And if there is one thing I can tell you, it’s that I have felt the exact same way about things as you have. I guarantee I’m not the only one. Since we’re sharing..


An Exciting Announcement – Ask Andy

I often get asked a lot of questions. Everyone has an inclination to Ask Andy. We’re talking personal questions, things you’d be too shy to ask your own mother for fear of judgement. I’ve always been told that I’m a good listener. I’ve also noticed a trend that not only do friends come to me and ask me their awkward questions, but strangers have started doing it too! (more…)