Category: Ask Andy

Ask Andy – Egg Donation

Welcome to my Ask Andy page! This is your opportunity ask me the burning questions that are on your mind – and they can be about anything you want advice on!

Egg-tastic, 31, from Pretoria, asks:

Hi Andy,

I saw that you used to be a fertility nurse and I wanted to find out some more information on egg donation. Are there specific criteria I must meet to become one? I know that you have to take medicine to be an egg donor, is it tablets I drink? I’m very scared of injections. More importantly, will I get lots of money? ;)

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Ask Andy – A Question About Contraception

Welcome to my Ask Andy page! This is your opportunity ask me the burning questions that are on your mind – and they can be about anything you want advice on!

Xoli, 25, from KZN asks:

Hi Andy, I recently started taking injectable contraception (the two month one) from my local clinic. I’ve been on it for four months now but I still haven’t seen my period. Is this normal? Is there dirty blood inside me now? I’m also gaining weight! Please help!

Hi Cynthia,

Unfortunately all forms of contraception will have some side effects. (more…)

Ask Andy – Is the Morning-After Pill Safe?

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Sibusisiwe, from Johannesburg, asks:

Andy, I’m really bad at taking my pill – I forget all the time. I have a boyfriend, and we are sexually active. Because I forget to take my pill, I usually take the morning after pill on a regular basis to stop myself from falling pregnant. Is this a problem? My friend says it’s not good for you?

Hi Sibusisiwe,

Firstly, let’s have a look at the morning-after pill. It is called emergency contraception for a reason – it should only be used for emergencies. Depending on which morning-after pill brand you choose, you will need to take a certain number of tablets at a certain time. (more…)

Ask Andy – Moody Melissa

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Moody Melissa, 20, from Johannesburg asks,

Hi Andy. I recently started taking the pill, and have since become a crazy moody bitch. Does the pill cause mood swings? What can I do about them?

Hi Moody Melissa,

One of the most common side effects of the pill is mood swings, and it’s simply because of the hormones that are entering your body that you are simply not used to. The pill can cause some simple moodiness that may resolve in time, but it can also occasionally cause depression. (more…)

Ask Andy – Holding On

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Holding On, 24, from Port Elizabeth asks,

Hi Andy,

I was dating my boyfriend (now ex) for just over a year when he dumped me in January. We still kept talking since then, and he messages me a lot. He started dating a new girl that he met around 5 months ago and it looks serious.

Problem is I’m not over him and I still love him. He promises he’s no going to marry this new girl and that he’s just having fun. Will he come back? How can I convince him to be with me and not her?

Hi Holding On,

Unfortunately, it seems you’re holding on for no good reason, and he’s just using you as a way to keep his options open – very convenient for him. (more…)

Ask Andy – Blocked Baby

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Mandy, 31, from Johannesburg, asks:

Hi Andy, I saw that you’re a qualified midwife so I was wondering if you could help me with something that’s wrong with my baby. She is 8 days old, and is sick. She has a blocked nose and is very stuffy. She sounds congested and I think she has a lung infection (maybe like pneumonia?) because I can hear it is in her lungs. Is there any kind of treatment I can give?

Hi Mandy,

The good thing about babies is that they are fairly ‘easy’ to read. What I mean is, if she is actually sick, she will in all likelihood be displaying an elevated body temperature or fever (usually above 38°C). So, if you haven’t already, then please check her temperature. If such a young baby has a fever of unknown cause, you must take her to your paediatrician immediately.

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Ask Andy – Worried Boyfriend

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Worried Boyfriend, 27, from Johannesburg, asks:

Hi Andy, can guys also use your advice column? My girlfriend went on holiday and after she returned we had sex and my penis is full of red welts and has a few small sores. She says its nothing to worry about. She’s been very secretive and spending alot of time messaging someone she met on holiday – should I be concerned?

Dear Worried Boyfriend,

Of course you guys can use my advice column! It’s here for anyone and everyone. :)

Let’s start with the changes in her behaviour. It’s difficult to say whether you should be concerned because I don’t know what your relationship is like. For example, I trust my boyfriend implicitly and simply know that he’d be open and honest with me, and I know it’s not like him to hide what he’s doing or to be secretive – so, I’d personally be very concerned if he suddenly became secretive and started messaging someone he had met on holiday. However, because I trust him, I’d be open and I would simply ask him if I’m just being oversensitive, or if I need to worry.   (more…)

Ask Andy – Strange Happenings

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Nomps, 23, from Pietermaritzburg, asks:

hey Andy. ….I slept with my boyfriend with out using protection nd 2days after I went on my periods which is a bit strange coz it was rather early for my periods …..now I’m worried if it possible to get pregnant

Hi Nomps,

There are a number of reasons you could bleed after having sex – and it isn’t usually a sign of pregnancy.

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Ask Andy – Period Panic

Period Panic, 21, from Durban asks:

Hi Andy,

This is really awkward and I’ve avoided google because I know it isn’t always the best with the facts. I had sex while I was on my period about two weeks ago, because my boyfriend said you can’t fall pregnant if you’re on your period. But when I told my friends, they said that you can get pregnant even if you’re on your period? I’m freaking out. Please help! What can I do?!

Hi Period Panic,

Unfortunately, I don’t have amazing news for you because it is definitely possible for you to fall pregnant while you are on your period. Now, before you run away screaming, it is pretty rare for this to happen. (more…)

Ask Andy – Water Baby wants a Water Birth

‘Water Baby wants a Water Birth’, 27, from Johannesburg asks,

I’m currently 30 weeks pregnant, and I’m seeing both a gynae and a midwife. My midwife suggested that I should consider having a waterbirth, and I think they look really nice and peaceful but I’m nervous that my baby will drown or get an infection. What would you recommend?

I’m a big fan, and advocate, of water births for a number of reasons. Water helps tremendously with pain relief. The warmth helps you to relax, so you are less tense. Therefore, your body releases endorphins (natural painkillers and feel good hormones) which eases your labour pains and makes it easier to push.

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